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Why Anger is Essential for Happiness - Part 2

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In Part 1 of this post, we talked about how there is no such thing as a negative emotion, and how anger is our fuel when channeled through the heart. In this video, you’ll see Christian coach a woman from a place of disconnection from her rage into a bright, juicy state where she feels more alive and connected to her own internal fire and boundaries.

For anger to be healthy, you first need to be in deep connection with your own intrinsic essence; you need to have a genuine love of self. When you can start loving what is, your entire world will start to transform. During the Heart iQ Challenge, Christian will teach you how to feel more connected with your intrinsic essence and come into more self love and acceptance.

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When anger is expressed from that kind of wholeness, it’s simply a tool to help you maintain healthy boundaries. Weak boundaries are one of the direct consequences of identifying strongly with your feelings of ‘core unworthiness’, and people who do not know how to uphold healthy boundaries usually have an unbalanced relationship with anger.

For many of us, the word “no” is greatly underutilized. We need to have a generous amount of “no” in our lives to make room for the “yesses” - the things we do want. Being able to say no is an example of having appropriate self-love. When we go year after year without that level of self-love, and we don’t know how to say no, we inevitably have our boundaries crossed again and again, until our repressed “no” is finally expressed as rage, aggression, and sometimes violence - which are all dangerous and destructive forces.  

In some cases, this repression goes buried beneath our consciousness and is expressed as passive aggressiveness. When we learn to make that critical connection with our deepest essence and begin loving ourselves, our anger becomes a completely different thing. We may not even recognize it as anger. Suddenly, what we once expressed as anger is just fire, passion. It’s self-assuredness and confidence. It becomes the energy of our clear “no.” It can still be powerful and intense, but it comes with a heart connection that feels self-empowering and empowering to others too. That doesn’t mean our anger won’t still potentially trigger those around us and may even collapse those who are not in touch with their own anger. But if that does happen, we’ll have the clarity and compassion to deal with it appropriately.

To learn more about how core unworthiness gets created and how to come into more wholeness and connection with your intrinsic goodness, register for the Heart iQ Challenge.

To connect with our inner vitality, aliveness and fuel, we have to examine our relationship with anger. If you’ve made anger wrong, either in yourself or in others, you’ll be repressing this natural, creative, life force energy and the emotion will have nowhere to go but to come out in unhealthy, funky and potentially destructive ways. Heart IQ™ helps us accept all of our emotions as the pure, raw, beautiful fuel they’re meant to be.