The Heart iQ Blog
Reflections from Christian on relationships, circle work and the practice of living from the heart.
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VideoHow to be More Vulnerable with Those You Love
Christian explains why vulnerability feels safer alone than with a loved one, and shows how naming a need for safety, rather than forcing openness, allows real intimacy to develop.
VideoSomatic Tracking - Returning to the Body
Christian explains somatic tracking as the practice of noticing sensation, feeling, and the stories layered on top of them, using the body as an anchor for honest connection.
Video · 10:31The Secret To Sustainable Change
Christian explains tracking as the internal practice of noticing what is actually moving within us, distinguishing it from reading others, and demonstrates it live with a participant working through a limiting belief.
VideoThe One Relationship Factor That Changes Everything
Christian explains why a couple's intimacy is shaped not just by the two people involved but by their inner world, their shared container, their family history and the community around them.
VideoHow to Feel Good Feeling Bad
Christian explains Heart iQ Tracking, a practice of noticing both what you're feeling and the judgments you carry about it, and how naming both together turns resistance into a felt sense of ease.
Video · 28:06How to Take Inspired Action (Even When You're Terrified)
Christian explains why waiting to feel ready keeps people stuck, and how a felt sense of safety, not fearlessness, allows imperfect action to move a life forward.
Video · 7:48Couples Going Wild On The Mat
Christian reflects on footage of couples moving from verbal miscommunication into embodied connection during an Insights to Intimacy retreat, showing how sound, movement and play can open honesty that words alone struggle to reach.
Video · 76:14How I Got Initiated into Circle Work
Christian recounts his first clash and eventual friendship with Heart Circle founder Tej Steiner, describing how a confrontational facilitation style gave way to learning the Heart Circle model.
How To Be Happy, Even When Everything Feels Like It's Falling Apart
An introduction to joy in the Heart iQ approach, meeting disowned feelings, learning in a group and bringing the practice into everyday relationships.
Video · 9:59The Healing Power of Acknowledgement
Christian explains that acknowledging what doesn't work in a relationship, spoken from strength rather than shame, builds more intimacy than presenting only one's best qualities.
Video · 9:10How To Disarm Your Neuro-Emotional-Energetic Defence System
Christian explains S.T.U.A.R.T., the neuro-emotional-energetic defence system that filters safety, and describes the six qualities that soften its grip so we can meet ourselves more honestly.
Video · 7:39What is Heart iQ?
Christian explains Heart iQ as a practice of embodied, conscious communication built on consciousness and life force, described through a four-directional model of connection: up, down, out and in.