The Heart iQ Mastery Couples Edition: 90 Days to Come Back to Love Together

Sound Familiar?

You love each other.
So why does staying close keep getting this hard?

You've talked it through, maybe more than once. Perhaps you've tried counselling, or read the books on your own. And yet in the moments that matter most, the conversation that turns into the same argument, the bid for closeness that gets missed, the repair that never quite happens, the two of you still end up further apart than you meant to.

What's missing isn't more communication tips, and it isn't really willingness either. Each of us has a zone where our nervous system stays open, where we can take in our partner's truth and share our own. A big enough trigger tips us out of it, up into fight or down into shutdown. What this work builds is the felt ability to stay inside that zone for longer, to hold the heat of a hard conversation without bracing or going cold, and to turn toward each other in the exact moments you've always turned away.

You hold back what you really feel, because somewhere along the way it stopped feeling safe to be fully honest with each other

The same argument keeps returning, because the rupture never quite comes back round to repair, so it waits underground and surfaces again

You feel the distance. The intimacy has quietened, and you miss the closeness you both know is possible

You go cold, or you escalate. One of you drops down into freeze and shuts down, the other goes up into fight and pushes, and neither of you meets what's really there underneath

You're both ready for more. And "more" isn't another conversation about the relationship. It's learning, together, how to stay turned toward each other when it counts

You might recognise your relationship here

One of you reaches for closeness, and the other, without meaning to, pulls back.

A disagreement starts small and somehow ends up somewhere neither of you wanted.

You both say you're "fine", and you both know you've stopped really talking.

You fill the evenings with screens and tasks, because the quiet between you feels tender.

When something hard comes up, one of you goes cold and the other chases.

You go quiet You keep busy You keep the peace You walk on eggshells You drift apart

Not because either of you is failing.

Because neither of you yet feels safe enough
to stay open when it gets hard.

Maybe you notice

A low background tension that never quite settles between you.

Irritability that flares over small things.

Less touch, less play, less of the warmth you used to share.

A sense that you're sharing a life, but not always meeting in it.

Stretches of distance that neither of you can quite explain.

The quiet ache of wanting to feel close again, and not knowing the way back.

Sometimes it looks like

Keeping the peace

Swallowing the truth to avoid another fight.

Shutting down

Going flat or walking away instead of staying.

Pushing and chasing

Needing a reaction just to feel met.

The same loop

The argument that returns and never quite resolves.

What Heart iQ Actually Is

Heart iQ is not a method, and it isn't couples therapy or another round of self-improvement.

It's a living map of four directions of connection, the four ways your system opens or closes in any given moment, including the moments you're with your partner. As the two of you learn to stay open in all four, the way you meet each other begins to change.

↑ Up: Source

Your capacity to feel connected to something larger, to be held by life, to feel the awe and wonder of existence, even when things fall apart.

↓ Down: Body

Your capacity to feel what's happening inside, sensations, feelings, thoughts. Your connection to the ground, to embodiment, to the earth beneath you.

← In: Receive

Your capacity to let love in from others, to be open enough to receive connection, intimacy, and care without shutting down or pushing away.

→ Out: Express

Your capacity to be authentic, to share all of who you are without holding back, managing, or shape-shifting. To feel safe being true to your own essence.

When any one of these directions is shut down, we compensate for it. We override, or numb, or perform, or quietly withdraw from the person right in front of us. Heart iQ trains the two of you to stay open in all four, so you can stay present with each other across the full range of being human.

Why Support Beyond
the Two of You Matters

Many couples try to work everything out behind closed doors, just the two of them, carrying it all between them.

But there are parts of a relationship that the two of you simply cannot see from inside it.

In Heart iQ, circle isn't about performing, or being fixed, or airing your relationship to strangers. It's a relational mirror, a place where each of you is met with honesty and care, so you stop asking your partner to be your only witness. As I often say, I don't need to be fixed. I need to be met.

You don't need to understand everything you hear here. This is an introduction to the terrain the two of you will begin to explore during Heart iQ Mastery.

Not Your Average "Online Course"

What's Inside the
Heart iQ Mastery

This isn't a course you watch. It's a practice the two of you live, with real guidance, real community, and a structure designed to meet you where your relationship is and take you somewhere closer.

Over 90 days you move through a carefully sequenced journey that helps you stay connected when conflict comes, find your way from rupture back to repair, and feel the love between you again. You join as a couple: one price for the two of you, your partner joins free. Everything you need is included, and it's yours to keep.

Three Pillars of Practice

Personal. Relational. Circle.

Each week works across three integrated pillars. The relational pillar is the heart of it for couples, and it lands more deeply when each of you can settle your own system and you both have support around you.

Personal Practice

Settling Your Own System

So much of what happens between two people starts inside one of them. This pillar helps each of you settle your own nervous system, so you stop bracing against your partner and meeting them from old fear. When you can feel what's happening in your own body, you stop firing it across the room.

When your own system is steadier, you bring far less reactivity to the people you love.

✓Settle your nervous system so you stop bracing against your partner
✓Feel a trigger rising before it spills into the room
✓Somatic tracking and present-moment awareness
✓Recognise when you're reacting to your history, not to your partner
✓Stay steady in your own body when the conversation gets charged

Relational Practice

The Heart of It, Together

This is where the real change happens for a couple. Your relationship is where you meet the exact places you collapse, defend, or go silent with each other. Rupture and repair is the core skill here. This pillar trains the two of you to stay present with the pain of a rupture while keeping your heart open to repair, not forcing it, not rushing it, just staying available for it, so you find your way back to each other instead of away.

You learn to hold your partner's intensity without leaving, to say the hard thing in a way that can actually be received, and to let your partner's love land and show them what it did to you.

✓The Dare to Share Protocol: tracking and sharing what's moving in you, in the moment, before you're even clear
✓Hold your partner's intensity, staying present and out of defence, knowing it usually has little to do with you
✓Let remorse do its work, genuinely seeing and feeling how you've hurt the other, so repair lands
✓Come back to each other after rupture, again and again, with your hearts still open
✓Let your partner's love through your defences and show back what it did to you

Circle Practice

Support Beyond the Two of You

No relationship is meant to carry every need on its own. So much strain in a couple comes from asking one person to be everything. This pillar shows you how to be held by community as well as by each other, so you stop putting the whole weight of your world on one set of shoulders.

When each of you has support beyond the relationship, you both bring more to it and lean on it less.

✓Learn what belongs between the two of you and what belongs in wider support
✓Stop placing every need on your partner alone
✓Be met by others who are doing the same work on their relationships
✓Have somewhere to land when things between you are tender
✓Feel held by something bigger than the two of you

As each of you settles your own system, you bring less reactivity to the relationship. As the relationship gets cleaner, you both feel safer to be honest. And as you draw on support beyond the two of you, you stop asking your partner to carry everything alone.

Three pillars, one relationship, all of it growing closer together.

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Christian & His Teaching Team

Step-by-Step
Video Lessons

Every lesson builds toward the same thing: the two of you staying open to each other for longer, hearing each other more clearly, and finding your way back to love when things get hard. Christian is your primary guide through every stage of the journey, supported by a handpicked team of senior teachers who bring their own depth and expertise to specific practices throughout the course.

◉12 core modules

◉Watch on any device

◉134+ video lessons

◉Practices you can use for life

Learn with Christian & Team View Curriculum

"Coming from my heart is acceptable. Going back to this state of being has been life altering for me on all kinds of crazy levels. I love the warm fuzzy feelings when leading from my authentic heart centre."

Linda Stewart

Delivered Beautifully Online

Practice Anywhere. Closer Everywhere.

Your entire 90-day journey is delivered through an elegant online learning platform. Each of you gets your own full Hub access, on desktop, tablet, or phone. Each day, your next lesson unlocks. Each week, your new practices appear.

Daily embodiment practices, printable practice worksheets, and a dedicated community space mean the two of you can weave this work into your week together, wherever you are in the world.

Video lessons average 20 minutes. Practices take 10–30 minutes daily, on your own or with your partner. The commitment is meaningful but sustainable.

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Show Up Daily. Feel the Difference.

Daily Embodiment
Practice

Every day for 90 days, a guided embodiment experience is waiting for you. Filmed at real Heart iQ retreats with world-class teachers including Lara, Maanee, Sylvie, and Anastasia.

Choose your practice time, morning or evening, and show up like it's live. No replays, no pausing, no going back. Just the two of you (or each of you on your own), your bodies, and a guided invitation to slow down and soften toward one another.

By day 90, this isn't a practice you do. It's a way you've started to be with each other. Two people whose systems know how to settle, how to feel, and how to keep turning toward love.

◉90 guided sessions

◉Choose your daily time

◉Live-stream format

◉Do it solo or with your partner

Guided embodiment practice at Heart iQ retreat

Your Personal Heart iQ Coach

Meet Z:
The Heart iQ Oracle

Z is your own Heart iQ coach, available any time of day, including right after a hard conversation. It is trained on the full body of work, runs on the latest AI models, and answers in Christian's voice.

You can type to Z, or talk with it out loud. In voice mode you have a real conversation, and Z answers in Christian's own voice, in up to 29 languages. Ask it anything. "We both said things we regret, how do I find the way back to repair?" "How do I hold my partner's intensity without going into defence?" "We keep having the same argument, what do we each actually want underneath it?"

Z does far more than answer questions, it can practise with the two of you. Record a conversation or a practice together, and Z reflects back where each of you opened and where each of you moved into defence. Or let it guide you both through the core practices side by side, so you are not only watching videos and worksheets, you are coached through the work together in real time.

It is there from every page of the course, for each of you, it remembers your work between conversations when you choose, and it never judges.

◉Talk with Z out loud, in Christian's voice

◉Available in up to 29 languages

◉Practise together, with feedback for each of you

◉See where each of you opens or closes

You're Not Doing This Alone

A Community Built
for Real Connection

The practices work, and they work deeper when you have support around the two of you. Every member gets access to a living, breathing community of others doing this same work on their relationships, so you're never carrying it alone.

Find Your Buddy

You'll do much of this work with your partner. For the practices where it helps to have another set of eyes, buddy matching connects each of you with someone in your timezone who shares your intention.

My Circles

Create or join a practice circle of any size and meet regularly on Zoom. Each circle gets its own private space to connect, communicate, and coordinate practice sessions around your schedule.

Your Cohort

You move through all 90 days alongside everyone who began on the same day, and as a couple you do it inside a wider circle. A shared space to connect and be encouraged, so you are not carrying it all between just the two of you.

Plus a full community feed, the ability to ask questions and share reflections directly inside each lesson, and a search engine that finds anything across the entire course.

Live Gatherings, Facilitated by Christian

Live Calls Through
the Whole Journey

Through the 90 days the two of you also gather live, every two weeks, in a space I facilitate. It is a time to be met, to be heard and seen, to bring your questions, to practise circle together, and to work with whatever is alive for you, alongside others doing this work on their relationships.

These gatherings are not a fixed curriculum with a set plan for the week. They are an open, emergent space that meets what the cohort actually needs, shaped by the unique journey of the people in the room. We connect, we practise embodiment and circle work together, and we meet what is alive, in real time, with presence.

⬥ A live gathering every two weeks, included with your place

The 12-Week Journey

You Grow Closer One Week at a Time

The journey moves in three chapters: embodied safety and tracking, then truth, triggers and defences, then ownership, shadow and the field. Click any week to see its personal, relational, and circle practices, plus the supplemental teachings. Many of the relational practices are designed to be done with your partner. A short Getting Started week eases the two of you in, and an integration week carries you across the finish line.

Week 1Landing in the Body+

Nothing opens without safety first. You slow everything down and let your body lead instead of your mind, building the foundational skill the whole journey rests on: tracking what's alive in you, moment to moment.

PersonalSlow Motion Movement, a moving meditation that lets your body lead and opens a gateway to your own aliveness

RelationalSomatic Tracking, naming the raw sensations alive in your body, in connection with another

CircleThe Sharing Structure, the five-part Heart iQ circle: tune in, take space, share and track, be met.

Week 2Presence & Integrated Tracking+

You deepen from sensation into presence, learning to stay embodied while you speak, and to track your relationship to what you're sharing in real time, not just the words.

PersonalEmbodied Presence, a guided moving meditation that builds the five levels of presence

RelationalIntegrated Tracking, sharing your truth while tracking your body, emotions and stories as you speak

CircleIntegrated Tracking in Circle, the sharer tracks while the group holds the amplified field.

Week 3Tuning Into the Field+

Tracking goes wider. You learn to feel the living field between people and work with whatever is arising right now, in the present moment, rather than anything rehearsed.

PersonalTuning Into the Field, short daily guided tune-ins that move from breath, to safety, to the wider field

RelationalPresent-Moment Tracking, tracking what's alive between you, live, with nothing pre-planned

CircleResonance Warm-Ups, quick exercises that build coherence and resonance in a group.

Week 4The Art of Unwinding+

The body holds what we've suppressed. You learn to follow the breadcrumbs from contraction into release, alone, with another, and held by a group, closing the first chapter of embodied safety and tracking.

PersonalUnwinding Core Stress, slow motion, the five levels of presence and breath to release stored stress

RelationalUnwinding With Another, consciously following your body from contraction to relaxation, supported by a witness

CircleUnwinding in a Group, one person unwinds in the centre while the circle holds the field.

Week 5Trigger Tracking+

With safety and tracking in place, you turn toward harder territory: conflict, disappointment, and your own triggers. You map what activates you and learn to stay present with a trigger instead of blaming, attacking, or shutting down.

PersonalJournaling Your Triggers, a two-column journal mapping each trigger and its somatic response

RelationalTrigger Tracking With Your Buddy, bringing a single trigger to your partner and tracking it together

CircleTrigger Tracking in Pod, the same work in a group, where pop-ups and mirrors reach your blind spots.

Week 6Clearing Withholds+

Everything left unsaid costs you energy and intimacy. You learn the emotional-hygiene practice that turns unspoken truths into repair instead of resentment, the bare facts and their impact, with no story or projection.

PersonalJournal Your Withholds, naming who, what they did, and the impact, with no assumptions or overlay

RelationalShare Your Withholds, running a withhold through the protocol so it lands as repair, not attack

CircleWithholds in the Pod, clearing the air in a group so the circle doesn't accumulate weight.

Week 7Turning Life Into Medicine+

You learn to translate even your hardest moments into medicine, and you meet the Dare to Share Protocol, the core communication practice that runs through the rest of the journey.

PersonalTranslate Your Life Into Medicine, taking one moment each day and turning it into medicine

RelationalThe Dare to Share Protocol, the framework for saying something hard so it can actually be received

CircleThe Group Read, using the group's silent body-read to reveal a truth you can't reach alone.

Week 8Meeting Your Defences (S.T.U.A.R.T.)+

Meet Stuart, your intelligent energetic defence system, the perimeter that keeps others out and keeps all of you from being expressed. It softens through six qualities: Safety, Trust, Understanding, Awareness, Relaxation and Tenderness. The practice this week is acknowledgement, which lets love land beneath the armour.

PersonalTracking Stuart, recognising the behaviours, postures and exits that keep others out

RelationalThe Acknowledgement Practice, a three-round exchange that brings nourishment where defence used to be

CircleAcknowledgement in Circle, the same practice met and amplified by the group field.

Week 9Radical Ownership+

Self-responsibility without shame or collapse. You move from acknowledgement into counter-ownership, seeing honestly where you co-create the very dynamics that hurt, and learn to give and receive feedback as care.

PersonalAdvanced Acknowledgement, journaling where you contribute to what isn't working

RelationalOwning How You Contributed, counter-ownership in both directions with your partner

CircleThe Wisdom Council, a structured group ritual for receiving deep feedback on a real issue.

Week 10Shadow Work+

You enter the territory of shadow, the parts of yourself you've judged, denied, or exiled, and discover the gold hidden inside what you've refused to feel. The judgements you already carry become a map.

PersonalTracking the Shadow, turning the judgements you carry into a map of your shadow lands

RelationalSharing the Shadow, bringing hidden material into the field of another person

CircleThe Group Shadow Round, taking shadow work into the full group field.

Week 11Shame & Belonging+

The deepest layer. Naming the thing you most don't want anyone to know, and discovering you still belong, becomes one of the most freeing experiences in the whole programme.

PersonalTracking Your Shame, a private inventory of what you've been carrying unseen

RelationalWhat I Don't Want You to Know About Me, short, brave rounds met with reassurance

CircleThe Shame Sharing Circle, the same protocol in the collective field, where it lands deepest.

Week 12Mat-Work & the Meeting Point+

Everything integrates on the mat. Using music and the full range of emotion, you surrender into being witnessed, and discover the meeting point, the third body that emerges when two people fully meet. An integration week then carries you across the finish line.

PersonalGet on the Mat, moving through five emotional ranges with music as the doorway into surrender

RelationalGet Witnessed, surrendering on the mat in the presence of a witness, then holding space in return

CircleMusical Mat-Work, pop-corn style mat work where the room witnesses in silent reverence.

36 core practice worksheets and over 100 video lessons and supplemental transmissions, structured into a progressive, sustainable daily rhythm the two of you can keep.

Begin Heart iQ Mastery Together

Join as a Couple

One price for the two of you, your partner joins free. We move through all 90 days together as one cohort, beginning Monday 21 September. Enrolment opens for a short window before we begin.

Heart iQ Mastery Couples Edition

€997

One price for the two of you, your partner joins free. Lifetime access.

Join the Waiting List

⬢ Cohort begins Monday 21 September · Enrolment opens soon

Everything included:

◉A free partner's pass: both of you join on one enrolment, each with full Hub access

◉12 core modules, drip-fed over 90 days

◉134+ video lessons with Christian and team

◉Daily guided embodiment practice for 90 days

◉Z: your personal Heart iQ AI coach, available 24/7

◉A place at the live Love, Relationships & You retreat

◉Personal, relational & circle practice worksheets

◉Community space and practice circles

◉Deep search across all course content

◉Lifetime access

Bonuses for This Cohort

Two Bonuses for This Upcoming Cohort

For the cohort beginning Monday 21 September, your place comes with two bonuses, below. Both carry real value, and neither is guaranteed for future cohorts.

Bonus 1 of 2

Love, Relationships & You

A live, in-person relationship retreat, included with your place, and your partner joins free.

Bonus, In Person

Two Places at a Live Relationship Retreat

As part of your enrolment you receive a ticket to one of our Love, Relationships & You retreats, and as a couple your partner gets a free partner's pass to join you. This is a relationship retreat, and it is a beautiful place to be together. It's where the work comes fully into the body, a 3-day embodied experience where rupture and repair, holding each other's intensity, and letting love land happen in the room rather than on a screen.

Running Thursday evening through Sunday afternoon, held in intimate, purpose-built retreat spaces. Longer, deeper, and more immersive, this is where everything the two of you have been practising lands in your bones.

Two retreats are available to you:

New Eden, Netherlands

1 – 4 October 2026

Casa Sagrada, Colorado

5 – 8 November 2026

Thursday evening opening through Sunday afternoon
Live facilitation with Christian and the Heart iQ team
A place for you, and a free partner's pass for the two of you to attend together

Travel and accommodation are separate. See the retreats.

Bonus 2 of 2

Your Partner Comes Free

When you join, your partner can take the whole 90 days with you at no extra cost. This is not a bring-a-friend offer, and it is not two for the price of one. It is a place for your partner, the person you are in relationship with, and only they are eligible. Your partner gets their own Hub access, their own daily practice, and their own place in the community, worth a second full enrolment.

What your place is worth

Heart iQ Mastery€997

Your partner's place, free€997

Your place at the live in-person retreat€997

Total value€2,991

Your price€997

The partner pass and the place at the in-person retreat are offered for the cohort beginning Monday 21 September. Both carry real value, and neither is guaranteed for future cohorts.

Be Inspired

What Others Have Experienced

Real people, real relationships. These are participants who committed to the practice, and found their way back to each other in ways they didn't expect.

I took away that it can be joyful to work on your stuff. Not heavy. Joyful. I'm taking home a clear and constant heart, and tools to make a good relationship great.

— Heart iQ Graduate

I learned how to be myself, how to open and love deeply, how to listen and follow my guidance on a completely different level. I feel equipped for the rest of my life with something no one else can take away from me.

— Kamila

Through Heart Intelligence, I now have the courage to face who I truly am, and yes, I am beginning to accept, appreciate and love that which I see. It is Heart Intelligence which has provided the missing pieces of the jigsaw.

— Chris Jones

I feel more deeply connected to myself and others than ever before. The ripple effects of Heart Intelligence show up every day in my life, in my actions, thoughts and words. I find myself reaching out more and more, to celebrate big and small moments of joy.

— Heather Rizzo

Heart iQ has changed my life in so many ways. It opened my eyes to see clearly, taught me how to fearlessly speak my truth, gave me beautiful friends to share joy and fun, and blessed me with finding love and passion in an amazing new relationship.

— Andrea Mayer

I used to be haunted by a crippling sense of loneliness for as long as I can remember, but I no longer feel alone. Heart iQ has given me a community of heart-centred, like-minded people, a true soul family. I have learned to accept myself more deeply than I ever thought possible.

— Yvonne Zivkovic

I learned to stop and track. To rest my mind so I can hear, feel, deny or embrace the message of my heart. To share and express what I want and what I need. To be seen and felt in circle.

— Francine Reusens

We shared things with each other we'd never shared in seventeen years of marriage.

— Andrea, married 17 years

I have more self awareness than I had before and am less critical of others as well as myself. More confidence, more acceptance of who I am, less fear about the future, and more trust in life and myself.

— Debbie Watts

Heart iQ gave me the courage to face my own needs and learn the principle that ALL feelings are acceptable, it's just that some feel better than others, and also to embody what I'd learned. I am so grateful I had the courage to take on Heart iQ.

— Beverley Killian-Richardson

I thought I was broken. Turns out I just needed a space safe enough for my nervous system to finally let go. The practices gave me something I can return to every single day.

— Hélène Denis

Learning Heart iQ is the clearest form of communication I've ever experienced. When my heart is open and I let it shine, I feel alive and abundance flows. How beautiful, vulnerable and exquisite it is to live life from a place of open heartedness.

— Jane Cormack

Meet Christian...

Before I could walk this path with others, I had to walk it myself.

I'm Christian Pankhurst, founder of Heart iQ, and I'll be accompanying you through this journey.

My early life was shaped by intensity and a lack of safety, experiences that later showed up as anxiety, panic, and a deep sense of inner disconnection.

What began as a personal search for relief slowly became a deeper inquiry into what helps us stay open, present, and human in connection, especially when things get challenging.

Over the last 20 years, that inquiry has evolved into Heart iQ: a body-based, relational approach to personal and collective healing that's now practised by individuals, couples, and groups around the world.

The work draws from both Eastern and Western traditions, but its heart is simple, creating spaces where people feel safe enough to be real, and supported enough to open.

I don't see myself as someone who fixes or heals others.

My role is to help create the conditions where your own intelligence, capacity, and goodness can emerge.

I'm glad you're here, and I look forward to meeting you in the work.

Meet Sumir...

She helped shape the very work you're about to step into.

Co-Creator & Guest Teacher

Sumir has been immersed in Heart iQ since 2014, co-designing Heart iQ Mastery with Christian, co-facilitating the men's and women's retreats, and creating Feminine Rising and The Golden Path.

She co-facilitates Accelerated Awakening, the deep-dive, invite-only retreat that Christian offers once a year in the United States and the Netherlands.

She brings a fierce, tender, devotional quality of holding that people feel before she says a word.

Join as a Couple

One price for the two of you, your partner joins free. We move through all 90 days together as one cohort, beginning Monday 21 September. Enrolment opens for a short window before we begin.

Heart iQ Mastery Couples Edition

€997

One price for the two of you, your partner joins free. Lifetime access.

Join the Waiting List

⬢ Cohort begins Monday 21 September · Enrolment opens soon

Everything included:

◉Bonus 1: Love, Relationships & You, a place at our live in-person retreat

◉Bonus 2: Your partner joins free, a full second place with their own Hub access

◉12 core modules, drip-fed over 90 days

◉134+ video lessons with Christian and team

◉Daily guided embodiment practice for 90 days

◉Z: your personal Heart iQ AI coach, available 24/7

◉Personal, relational & circle practice worksheets

◉Community space and practice circles

◉Deep search across all course content

◉Lifetime access

Questions

FAQs

Start with the essentials. More detail is grouped below.

What is the Heart iQ Mastery Couples Edition?›

The Heart iQ Mastery Couples Edition is a 90-day journey for the two of you to stay connected through the hard moments, learn to repair after rupture, and feel the love between you again.

It combines daily video lessons, somatic practices, relational exercises you can do together, daily embodiment practice, and group support across 12 progressive weeks.

This isn't a communication course. It's a deeper training in rupture and repair: staying open to each other when things get charged, and finding your way back from rupture with your hearts still open, so the way you meet each other naturally changes.

When does it start?›

You begin together as a cohort on Monday 21 September 2026, and move through all 90 days as one group, from the autumn equinox to the winter solstice. You and your partner move through it side by side.

Because everyone starts on the same day, enrolment opens for a short window before we begin and then closes. Join the waiting list and we'll email you the moment the doors open, with everything you need to take your place as a couple.

How much time does it take each week?›

If you follow the weekly core rhythm, personal, relational, and circle practices, most couples spend around 2–3 hours per week with the core videos and practices, some of it together and some on your own.

There are also optional supplemental videos released each week. Many people engage with these for around 20–30 minutes a day, but this is entirely optional.

You're encouraged to find a rhythm that fits your life as a couple, not to keep up with everything.

How much does it cost?›

The Heart iQ Mastery Couples Edition is €997, one price that covers both of you. It's a one-time payment with lifetime access, and your partner joins free. It includes the full 90-day curriculum, 134+ video lessons, worksheets, daily embodiment, your personal AI coach, the community, and a place at the live retreat with a free partner's pass.

A 3-month payment plan is also available (€349 × 3), still covering both of you. Financial assistance may be available, so reach out to [email protected] if cost is a barrier.

Do I need prior experience?›

No. This is designed as an entry point into the Heart iQ world for the two of you. The practices are introduced step by step, with clear guidance and support.

Whether this is the first time you've done structured relationship work together or you've explored plenty already, you'll both be met where you are.

Can we do this as a couple?›

Yes, this is built for couples. You join together on one enrolment, you pay one price for the two of you, and your partner joins free, each of you with your own full Hub access, your own daily practice, and your own place in the community.

Your enrolment also includes a place at the live Love, Relationships & You retreat, and as a couple your partner gets a free partner's pass to that too.

If you have any questions about joining together, email [email protected] and we'll help you get set up.

Is enrolment refundable?›

The Couples Edition is a premium signature programme, and enrolment is non-refundable. The moment you join, the two of you receive full, instant, lifetime access to the entire curriculum and all materials.

Because the digital content is delivered to you immediately, at checkout you expressly consent to that immediate access and acknowledge that you waive the 14-day right of withdrawal that would otherwise apply to digital purchases in the EU.

If you have any questions before joining, reach out to [email protected] and we'll help you decide if it's the right fit for the two of you.

What if I fall behind?›

That's completely okay. Life happens, and it happens to two busy people even more. You can slow down, pause, and return when you're both ready.

The weekly rhythm is offered as a guide, not a rule. Consistency matters more than speed, and you're encouraged to find a pace that's sustainable for the two of you.

You both also have lifetime access to all digital course materials, so there's no rush.

We live far away, can we still take part?›

Yes. Heart iQ Mastery runs entirely online, and each day's practice is on-demand, so the two of you can take it whenever suits you, from anywhere in the world. Everyone moves through the same rhythm together as a cohort, and you're never required to be live at a set time to keep up.

Can we do the relational practices together?›

Absolutely. The relational practices are designed to be done with a partner, and doing them with each other is the heart of this for couples. You'll also learn that when one of you is taken over and talking only makes it worse, repair often comes back through something wordless first, a hand squeeze, a small gesture that says "I'm ready to reconnect whenever you are."

Z, your Heart iQ AI coach, can also guide the two of you through the core practices together and reflect back where each of you opens or closes. And for moments when it helps to practise with someone outside the relationship, community and buddy matching connect each of you with others on the same journey.

What happens after the 90 days?›

Heart iQ Mastery is the beginning, not the end, and it's complete on its own. If the two of you want to keep going, a few doors open from here:

Accelerated Awakening. Our advanced, invite-only deep-dive retreat. Completing Heart iQ Mastery opens an invitation to it.
The Heart iQ Fellowship. A year-long journey of personal mentoring and coaching, for ongoing, supported practice.
The Heart iQ Academy. Where you can go deeper still, and train and certify as a Heart iQ facilitator.

There's no pressure to take any of them. The practices stay with the two of you for life, and you'll know together if you want to go further.

Fit & Readiness›

We've already done a lot of work on ourselves. Is this still for us?›

Heart iQ works at the level of the nervous system, not just the mind. Many experienced couples report that it gave them the missing piece, not more insight about their relationship, but the lived ability to stay open to each other in the charged moment.

If you've both read the books and tried the tools, and yet one of you still shuts down in conflict or intimacy, this training addresses exactly that gap.

Is this suitable for facilitators, coaches, or therapists?›

Yes. Many facilitators, coaches, and therapists take part with their partner, not as training to "fix" others, but to deepen their own presence and the way they show up in their relationship.

While this is not a certification programme, the skills and practices are directly applicable in professional contexts too, especially for those working with people or groups.

What if one of us isn't sure about going deep?›

There's no expectation for either of you to push beyond what feels right. This journey is built around choice and self-responsibility, and you each move at your own pace. Partners rarely grow at the same pace, and that gap is workable when it's met with honesty rather than pressure.

Depth tends to emerge naturally when two people feel safe and supported, not because they're forced. What lets a partner change is often the felt sense of "I love and accept you whether you change or not", and it's completely fine for one of you to be more hesitant than the other at the start.

Still wondering something? Tap the gold chat icon in the bottom-right corner and we'll get back to you.

Find Your WayBack to Each Other

Find Your WayBack toEach Other

Hear It From Those Who've Lived It

You love each other.So why does staying close keep getting this hard?

When two people stop turning toward each other,the love doesn't disappear.

You might recognise your relationship here

Maybe you notice

Sometimes it looks like

Keeping the peace

Shutting down

Pushing and chasing

The same loop

What if the missing piece isn't another conversation? It's learning, together, how to stay open when it counts.

What Heart iQ Actually Is

Why Support Beyondthe Two of You Matters

What's Inside theHeart iQ Mastery

Personal. Relational. Circle.

Personal Practice

Relational Practice

Circle Practice

Step-by-StepVideo Lessons

Practice Anywhere. Closer Everywhere.

Daily EmbodimentPractice

Meet Z:The Heart iQ Oracle

A Community Builtfor Real Connection

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My Circles

Your Cohort

Live Calls Throughthe Whole Journey

You Grow Closer One Week at a Time

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Two Bonuses for This Upcoming Cohort

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The Final Invitation

Find Your Way
Back to Each Other

Find Your Way
Back to
Each Other

You love each other.
So why does staying close keep getting this hard?

When two people stop turning toward each other,
the love doesn't disappear.

Why Support Beyond
the Two of You Matters

What's Inside the
Heart iQ Mastery

Step-by-Step
Video Lessons

Daily Embodiment
Practice

Meet Z:
The Heart iQ Oracle

A Community Built
for Real Connection

Live Calls Through
the Whole Journey